We are all afraid of something. It’s human. Do not play big arms, do not lie to yourself by pretending otherwise. First because fear is certainly the oldest emotion in the world, which is common to both humans and animals. But in addition to our small phobias, we also have social fears.
We are afraid when we face danger.
For example, to survive in prehistory, men had to struggle to eat, drink, live … And of course, we do not fight without fear. Because fear triggers in us a release of adrenaline that allows us to use the two survival strategies: quit or fight.
Today, our fears are different: there are our real fears and those we create. And believe me, we do not lack imagination. And the worst thing is that the more we imagine a scene, the more we believe in it, and the more we are afraid … (fear of being assaulted when we have never been attacked, fear of car accident, etc.)
Yet often these fears are beliefs rooted deep within us that eat our life and prevent us from fully blooming with others, on a daily basis (and that’s a shame).
Let’s see together 3 social fears to eliminate absolutely.
1. Fear of not being loved
You have so much need of love that you panic as soon as you feel coldness on the part of your partner or friends. And little heads of nothing at all … You dramatize everything and you create your own melodrama.
This fear of not being loved terrifies you so much that it urges you to call your partner 25 times a day, to constantly ask for new signs of affection and new proofs of love …
And your jealousy grows more and more because you are convinced that the loved ones who surround your partner steal the love you are dependent on.
Summary of the races: far from being in a happy and stable relationship, you lock up your partner, you imprison him/her in your demands of love and attention at $1.70. And your partner will eventually leave you to find some space (that’s absolutely your fault).
2. Fear of what others think
“And if I do that, what will they think? “And if I say that, what are they going to take me for?” “And if I dress like that, what would they think of me?” … Do you recognize her? That little inner voice that corrupt our minds.
If this voice is familiar to you, it’s because you refrain from doing something you like, only because you care so much about what others would think of you.
The most terrible thing about this fear is that you leave the power to decide who you are, what you want, and then you’re out of control of your thoughts and choices.
Due to this fear, people can even call you a stingy man when you are the most generous person in the world, you will accept it.
Looks like a compliment or criticism from a stranger is touching you, so you’ll probably never see that person again and have no influence on you. Odd huh?
So yes, there is nothing wrong, it is enough to ignore this judgment which is often random and without much importance. You are who you are. You are not what Jesus or Paul say about you.
Once you understand this, you will be free to do what you want, without worrying about what the whole world will think of you!
3. Fear of being alone
This social fear has always existed, but I think it is growing stronger today.
Communication has never been easier than in the 21st century. Internet, social networks, SMS allow us to always feel surrounded. And yet, I have the sad impression that people are more and more lonely, afraid and suffering.
Look around you: how many marriages, lives with two were built on the fear of loneliness? How many are deprived of their dreams or experiences that could have enriched them because they would have been led to live alone?
If this is your case, know that it is primarily because you do not feel good with yourself.
To find yourself alone is to face your little demons, these fears that anguish you … And as it scares you, you are always looking for company (even if it annoys you). In short, you are running away.
And unfortunately, to overcome this fear of loneliness, nothing better than confrontation will do. Analyze what distresses you, take care of yourself, give yourself reassuring messages. And you will see, you will become your best friend.
A few words to conclude on our social fears …
It’s up to you to get rid of these little social fears. Take the time to analyze what scares you, ask yourself all the right questions …
And when you have decrypted your fears, know that they will not disappear overnight.
Exterminating a fear is an everyday job. So be patient, each of your efforts will pay, it is promised.
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